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The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1(800)799-safe(7233) 1(800)787-3227(TTY)
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We are speaking for those who can not and for those who have long since been silenced. Our children deserve a future free from violence. . The worldwide pandemic of violence against women, children, elderly, disabled and the unable, must end. For the future of all mankind. This group is dedicated to achieving this goal. Please feel free to post topics, bulletins and/or pictures relevant to this mission. Love, light and blessings...
♥You are NEVER alone♥
She was such a beautiful little girl.
I cannot believe someone so heartless could allow something like this to happen!
Helpful Links:
The F.O.R.E.V.E.R. Friend's Network
The Weaker Vessel
The Domestic Abuse Project
Rising Above the Pain
Stop Child Executions
Fall Wind Dancer
Stop Child Hurt
Forensic Glossary
State Domestic Violence Coalition Links
The National Center on Elder Abuse
National Organization for Women NOW
NAACP
Child Advocate.org
Safe Havens for Animals Affected by Domestic Family Violence-Online Directory
United Nations Inter-Agency Network on Women and Gender Equality IANWGE
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered Men and Women Dealing With Domestic Violence Resource Page
CARE Humanitarian Organization
Dru Sjodin National Sex Offender Public Website
Take the Pledge: What Men Can Do to Stop Violence Against Women
Hot Peach Pages
Safety Tips
1. Safety During an Explosive Incident
A. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area that has access to an exit, avoid the bathroom, kitchen, or any area with possible weapons.
B. Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator or stairwell would be best.
C. Have a packed bag ready and keep it in an undisclosed but accessible place in order to leave quickly
D. Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
E. Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the Police.
F. Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will need to )
G. Use your instincts and judgment. If the situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser what he/she wants in order to calm the person down. You have the right to protect your self until you are out of danger.
H. Always remember - You don't deserve to be hit or threatened!
2. Safety when preparing to leave.
A. Open a savings account in your own name to establish or increase your independence. Think of other ways you can increase your independence.
B. Leave money, extra keys, copies of important documents and extra clothing with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.
C. Determine who would be able to let you stay with them, or lend you money.
D. Keep the shelter phone number close at hand and keep some change or a calling card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.
E. Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave the batterer. Remember-leaving the batterer is the most dangerous time!
3. Safety in you own home.
A. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices for the windows.
B. Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.
C. Inform you children's school, day care, etc., about who is authorized to pick up your children.
D. Inform neighbors and the landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him/her near your home.
4. Safety with a protective order.
A. Keep your protective order on you at all times. (when you change your purse, that should be the first thing that goes in it)
B. Call the police if your partner breaks that protective order.
C. Think of alternative ways to keep yourself and children safe if the police can't respond right away.
D. Inform your family, friends, neighbors, and coworkers that you have a protective order in effect.
5. Safety on the job and in public.
A. Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security. (provide them with a picture if possible)
B. Arrange to have some one screen your telephone calls if possible.
C. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have some one escort you to your car, bus or train. Use a variety of routes to get home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened while going home (i.e. while in your car, on the bus, etc.)
6. Your safety and emotional health.
A. If you are thinking about returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with some one you trust.
B. If you must communicate with your partner, determine the safest way to do so.
C. Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your needs.
D. Read books articles and poems that help you feel stronger.
E. Decide who you can call to talk freely and openly to give you the support you need.
F. Plan to attend a victims or women's support group for at least two weeks to gain support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
7. If you are a teen in a violent dating relationship.
A. Decide which friend, teacher, relative or police officer you can tell.
B. Contact an advocate at the court to decide how to obtain a restraining order and make a safety plan.
Your Personal Safety Plan:
Getting Ready to Leave:
After leaving:
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